Get a new pet

So what happens to the pets when it comes to the divorce?  Some care so much about their animals that it could be devastating when the lawyers speak of them like property. The value of the pets that we place in our hearts can sometimes be hard when it comes to being apart. If you are in the battle of your lifetime and your mate wants to fight dirty, they can go for custody of the pets.
They use the pets like leverage, much like children. The key to making out like a bandit in a divorce is to found what one person wants and then act like you need it or want it more. Usually the courts will give pets to the one who is more passionate or emotionally attached, which can be easily faked. Ex's go for the pets because they want to hurt you as much as possible. If you have any children or pets in a marriage you are more than likely to have an ugly divorce.

Like the children, the courts will ask themselves what is best for the pet. If your spouse gets the home and the yard, more likely they'll get the dog. If the pet only knows that one home, they are more likely to get the pet because they have an emotional attachment to their secured home. However, some judges will go on the fact of who had the dog first. If you gave it to your girlfriend and then over the years became attached it, the attachment doesn't matter. Sometimes they look at pets like property. Who has the right it property?  Well, the answer is, the one who owns it. They will not share the pet. This is because it's actually unhealthy for the dog. The dog will become confused easily and they won't have their security and may develop some emotional or aggressive behaviors.

Most of the time, the wife got the kids, the house, and the pets. This is because they feel that the children need the house as security and the family pet needs the children for security as well, so they all go together. This is one issue that has been addressed over the years, and the father has gotten all three.

If the judge can't think about the pet's interest, maybe you or your spouse should start acting properly in the divorce and instead of trying to get it all, give up the things you really don't want. If you don't like the dog, don't take the dog. If you don't the cat, don't ask for it. Don't fight over something that is just going to hurt you both in the long run.

However, there are people who lose their pet and need to rebuild their life with a new one. There is always going to be hurt feelings about losing the original pet, but getting another one will help you deal with the loss, it won't replace the animal, but it will allow you to begin the process of moving on and letting go. You may need some time to think things over.

It's hard to replace a pet that you were so close to. It's like losing a child or best friend. However, if you get another pet, not just another dog or cat, but any type of pet that will comfort you and be there for you then the divorce will be a lot easier to cope with. If you are thinking about a new pet, you should go to the shelters. They have animals that have been rejected and hurt and they will bond with you. You are more likely to bond with them because you can understand their situation. You may find that a pet from the shelter will be exactly what you need.

How To Find Your New Special Friend

Do you find yourself divorced and dating again?  It's so hard to find someone special enough to make a move. It's hard enough to even accept your first date let alone start a new life with someone special. Dating is a game that can involve good times and bad times. The thing about love is that you have a risk and everyone has a risk. The excitement is what we live for. It is what we need in our lives.

If you have been out of the game for a long time, you may feel a little out of place. You are now in new situations with new people. Dating is hard and it gets harder the older we get. Why?  Because we tend to be on the defense rather than the offense when it comes to dating in our older years. Before you get to the dating, you have to stop and think about a few things. You have to seriously think about what you are looking for and why.

The first thing that you need to do is just your priorities straight. Do you just want to meet new people, do you want to be friends, or this a relationship that you seek?  Don't allow anyone to tell you what you should do. You can be in your 60's and seek love; you can be any age and want to seek love. You should never let another person tell you what you want. You need to know what you want first so that you don't mislead anyone or get mixed messages. This is the way that you can date smart. Dating smart means that you both of the same objections and are perfectly matched in goals.

The next thing is to be open-minded. You have forgotten what it is like to be in love. You can make crazy mistakes in the name of love. Don't allow yourself to get too far off the ground. You don't your heart to break so early in the game. The first date is always the worst. If he calls back, great, and if they don't then it's okay because you have another date. Don't tie yourself down. Play the field to find out what exactly you are looking for. This will let you to pick someone because you want to not because you are settling. 

When it comes to meeting someone new be open to the channels of love. Let your family and friends help you get back in the game by doing some blind dating or speed dating. You will want to ask some of your friends to help you find someone and you should ask your family the same thing. The only thing about blind dates is that you want to make sure that your supported. Don't allow someone to say that your too old or blind dates are ridiculous. We all have had a blind date and one or two turned out to be a meaningful relationship.

You can answer a personal ad online or in the newspaper. The only thing that you have to worry about this kind of blind date is that it is done in a public place. You want to make sure that you are safely going to meet someone. Don't allow them to know your full name or where you live until after a few dates and you thing that it's someone that you would like to meet.

When you have allowed yourself to meet that special someone, you will find that your life will pick up where it seemed to fall apart and you may have your happy ever after. The only thing about ever 'afters' is that they normally don't find you, you have to find them.